(Written from the female perspective, yet it certainly applies to our gay world too!
Landed yourself a bonafide hottie? You're definitely in for some perks. However, there are downsides as well, to dating a gorgeous guy. Be prepared!
By Maggie Kim (Maggie Kim is a freelance writer and a rock musician based in Paris. )
I love looking at my boyfriend Tim’s big brown eyes, fringed with lashes so thick they could easily fan a small child during a summer heat wave. He’s got a nose chiseled by some Italian master sculptor, full lips that readily stretch into a sweet, charming grin and just the right amount of sexy, three-day-old stubble. He’s 6’3, broad-shouldered and has more style than any straight man ought to; think Ashton Kutcher with a dash of Mr. Big thrown in. And he’s all mine. I should be in heaven, right?
Wrong. Call me a whiner, but dating a cute guy isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. It begins to wreak havoc with a well-established dating dynamic.
In general, women are the ones in a relationship who are expected to turn heads. But with Tim, the tables (and heads) are turned to the point that any self-assured woman would wonder: Is dating a good-looking guy worth it? See for yourself as I describe the highs and lows you’ll encounter dating one of them.
High: Your friends think he’s hot
It’s definitely an ego boost to date a guy whom your friends immediately, and enviously, agree is a babe. I showed him off at a friend’s birthday party and, one by one, everyone I knew came up to whisper, “Oh, he’s gorgeous.” While the approval from my friends was welcome — and puffed up my pride — that bubble was bound to burst once I encountered my next grim realization…
Low: Everyone else thinks he’s hot, too
It would be great if only a select few people — trustworthy friends, important relatives, ex-boyfriends — could see how beautiful my beau is. Unfortunately, that’s not the case, and lots of other people (including some just plain beautiful women) brazenly eye my man when we’re out together. We went shopping recently and were having a great time until a lithe brunette made a beeline for my boyfriend like a sleek cheetah on the hunt. Somehow I managed to drag Tim out of the store before she pounced, but it was close. Not the most enjoyable way to spend a Saturday afternoon.
High: An attractive man gets you plenty of perks
Going out is a lot more fun when you’ve got the good-looking pass (i.e., my boyfriend) to garner VIP treatment. Many bartenders, waiters and maître d’s are happy to have my boyfriend around, so we have a pretty easy time getting a great table at a high-end restaurant, a drink at a crowded bar and other preferential treatment won purely through charm and good looks. With the less model-esque men I’ve dated in the past, I was the one who would try to convince the unimpressed gatekeepers to let us into overbooked nightspots. It’s a nice change and a load off my shoulders to be escorting the arm candy in lieu of being it.
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